Secrets of a quiet sleep!
Sleep is very important for children, because during their lifetime – and especially at their deepest stage – the hormones responsible for their development are secreted. And that’s just one of the reasons why you should make sure that your baby will sleep quite early.
Hours of eating and sleeping are the two main axes that outline a child’s preschool program as a whole, as well as the most common causes of nagging in a family. By installing a proper routine from the very first months of your baby’s life, you will help to get good habits and ensure plenty, refreshing sleep, not only for you but also for you.
The right time
Children up to an age often sleep often in the day, but the sleep that provides the greatest benefits and usually presents the most problems is the evening. The time to sleep for the night depends not only on the program you are trying to enforce, but also – in some cases – on the biological rhythms of the child itself.
In these cases, it is very important to respect them and make a compromise between the time that would be ideal for you to finally fall into his bed and at the time that he begins to feel the need for sleep. However, most children, due to their inherent adaptability, are compatible and follow the program proposed by parents, as long as they are stable and formal.
The first thing you have to do is notice the signs that reveal it starts to get tired: rubbing the eyes, yawning, scrubbing the lobes of his ears, and persistently requesting his pacifier and bedside table. If the color of the skin is particularly open, you may also notice that the area under the eyes and that close to the eyebrows become redder. In addition, in some babies fatigue makes their movements more sluggish, while others – on the contrary – look more irritated and nervous.
As soon as you see these signs, you know that it is time to sleep. Some parents believe that if they keep the child awake as much as possible, the easier it will be to fall asleep, since it will be very tired. But it happens exactly the opposite: Children, who prolong enough at the time of sleep, find it difficult to relax, and spend the next few hours in the hypertension. By choosing the right time and staying stable in the program you want to establish, you have made a very important step for a relaxing – for all – night.
The Ritual of Sleep
Sleep follows a certain cycle each time. Given that the child’s program is more or less repetitive and there are no reasons to awaken it during its lifetime (such as when it is ill or when it hurts for some reasons), it is quite easy to manage sleepiness he sleeps every day at about the same time. In order to give the child every time the “signal” that the sleep process will start soon, we need to establish a specific, short routine to be followed every night – about – at the same time, since it is young in age and for several years after.
Purpose of the “Ritual” is the child to relax, so it’s obvious that it will not include occupational activities that will cause the opposite, such as playing pillow or chase! A warm bath, a warm embrace and a fairy tale or a lullaby from the lips of Mom or Dad usually suffices for the majority of babies. Make sure that the atmosphere in the room predisposes to sleep, with low light, calmness and order. During the first year of a child’s life, the pre-sleep routine may be of a very short duration, as babies are relatively easy to sleep for many hours and do not feel stress
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As they grow older, however, they need more than this preparation before bedtime, and you may need to spend more time. “It is good to keep in mind that this ritual should be short, it will prove the determination of the parents to observe the program and leave no room to the child for an unnecessary evening game,” says family adviser Mr. Anastasia Frodzou – Christidis. Once you have grown up enough so that you can talk, take advantage of this time to strengthen your relationship, to trust your secrets and to advise him on what he is concerned with. Even then, however, this should be time-bound – it is good to seek to share such moments with your child during the day.
“Can I sleep with you?” What is the right answer?
The parents’ bed is for all children a small piece of paradise. Most would prefer to allow them to sleep there where the warmth and touch with mom and dad’s body provide security and relief from any fear or pain. Things are, however, clear. Children can sometimes visit their parents’ bed and stay with them for a while to play and joke. But shortly after, they should go to their own bed, and even in their own room to sleep.
As is the case in life, as with the subject of sleep, the children stay for a while with their parents and then leave and go to their own place. However, when it comes to a newborn, it is good to sleep in his parents’ room for the first time. On the one hand, and since the mother is breastfeeding, it is very practical for her to have the baby nearby, so she does not need to spend distances in the night, and she can also control the baby.
On the other hand, it is extremely important to we stress that the feeling that the parents are close, their voice and direct access to their arms are elements that the newborn has combined with the concept of “security” from its fetal life yet. “These elements of security, parents are obliged to provide their baby with the first months of his life by sleeping in their own room,” advises Ms. Anastasia Frodzou-Christidis. In their own room, but not in their own bed, as this is extremely dangerous.
When the baby is too young, the risk of being dangerously injured by a sudden movement that the parent can make when sleeping on the same bed is great.
What is the best age to go to his room?
The child should have been transferred to his or her own room if there is a possibility for the site at most until the 6th to 8th month of his or her life, so that the transition can be done without any problems but also does not harm the privacy of the couple, causing so problems in relationship (and sleep). Something that can facilitate this transition is for parents to seek to offer their child’s meals, especially in the evening, in the children’s room.
This is something that can be done from the second month of the child’s life, where his vision is now clearer. In this way, the baby, through a pleasant and painless process, habits his own space and connects him with the feeling of security. So when after an evening meal in his own room he falls asleep and transported to his cot, he is not expected to upset or interrupt his sleep. His favorite doll or a soft blanket can substitute for the feeling of security that so far gave him the presence of the parents next to him.
If she wakes up and has difficulty sleeping and crying, the solution is not to get her parents back into their bed. Instead, they should go alongside their own, caress it, comfort it and wait for sleep to get it.